I used to love to shop, and I mean shop! I’m talking about the kind of shopping where there’s no intention, no list, no vision other than to mindlessly wander around a mall spending. It was about that instant gratification of having new stuff, things, this-and-that to fill my home and for a brief moment, comfort me.
A new cushion for the couch (already overdressed with an array of textures and colours), or that beige Zara top, a colour I had never worn well with a skin tone as pale as an uncooked chicken (thankfully aided by Bondi Sands when Summer rolls around).
What I was doing wasn’t healthy, not for myself, my partner, my bank account or my mental health. I was buying things without a thought, and in return, they were giving me nothing back, and neither was I.
This needed to stop.
It wasn’t overnight that my habits changed – like many things it took time, many conversations, sifting through my things, analysing my spending, looking at photographs of myself. Who was I? What did I value? Where did I want to go? All these ‘things’ were a result of me not knowing these answers.
Seeking change and a challenge, my partner and I decided to do what many Kiwi’s do in their 20’s and move to the UK. Why? Because we wanted to become more resilient, more confident, and to experience new cultures, people, and challenges that Auckland at the time didn’t offer us.
To get there we made many changes, which forced us to be more intentional – no longer could I walk through a mall mindlessly spending. The cushions and beige top needed to go.
We moved into a tiny house (7×3 metres) to save on rent, which meant downsizing – It meant researching and discovering new processes and ways-of-living I had never heard about before, all to get us to our goals and to minimize what we had…
I discovered these movements:
- The Tiny House Movement
- Capsule Wardrobes
- The Fire Community
- House Sitting
These new learnings aided and pushed me forward. Yes, they helped us save to go to the UK, and they stopped me going into malls, buying without intention and owning things for owning-things-sake. But they also taught me the beauty of less, and to value more what we so often take for granted. My friends, family, education, and opportunities – these are the things that gave back to me and in return, I can give back to.
Owning less will give you so much more.
Owning less is not about depriving yourself, it’s about being more mindful with the things you have and the things you buy.
Next time you go shopping, go with a plan, think what do I need? What do I like? What brings me joy? Does this purchase align with my goals? And if you keep this in mind I promise you there will never be a mall visit without intention or a rogue beige top finding its way into your closet.
THE LADDER GIRL